Don’t count on people telling pure facts to you in the heat of discussion. The fact that somebody is a professional, doesn’t mean that he is right, or knows the right way. Professionals might have their own habits and customs which they’ve done for years – and continue doing so without considering new ways of working, thinking or acting. If somebody says “I’m a technical expert, I’ve worked for EA” that doesn’t tell what the guy did at EA.
Here’s something you might use. Whenever you hear somebody saying something like “I’ve done that, it doesn’t work that way” you should remember that it might only be his one time experience. It might have happened in different country, under different circumstances. There’s no guarantee that it will happen to you, or that it would always happen that way.
- “Studies show that…” (You might ask “What studies? Give me a link to article”)
- “The best way is…” (Why is the best way? Is there arguments for it?)
- “The worst thing because he says so” (Who is he? And why should we believe him?)
- “Always” (Always? Are there no exceptions? Ever?)
- “Never” (Really?)
- “Whenever” (Whenever? No exceptions… not just sometimes? In all situations?)
- “You should” (Should I? Why?)
There’s no need to strike back with full force when somebody is saying “gardening is the best hobby, ever!”. Leave room for tolerance. There’s no need to question everything all the time, but there could be need for critically evaluating what somebody says to you sometimes. We all (yes – we all. you, me and the rest of the world) have the right to express what we think, and that’s something nobody should get offended. Let people tell what they think, but process the reasons (or ask for them) and tell your opinion if necessary.
Question authority, make your own conclusions based on what’s said, not who said it.