Personal development and zen attitude go a long way. A recent comment at the forums about “others laughing at your comment” got me thinking.
I started pondering how many people really care if others laugh at their comments. I believe we have more important things to do than ponder negative thoughts.
Here are 3 tips on what to do when others laugh at your comments.
Don’t spend time pondering question “what if others laugh at my comments”
I don’t really think it makes a good use of your time to ponder if others will laugh at your comments. After all, it doesn’t make any impact whether you spend time thinking that they either laugh or not. I don’t suggest that you shouldn’t be sensitive about different issues, and not spend some thinking about the impact of your words and writings. For example mocking somebody isn’t such a good plan even if you don’t care that others think you are one dumb guy. I simply suggest that when you think you’ve done a positive contribution, then don’t spend time thinking what negative somebody might say about you. It’s really not going to take you anywhere.
Ask “so what?”
If you happen to start wondering if others laugh at your comments or think something negative of you, you really gotta ask “so what?”. Let’s say you accidentally write something dumb in public, and then somebody in Belgium laughs at your comments. So what? It’s not like the world is going to stop spinning just because you said something dumb. But what if some professional laughs at your comment? Then you’d really be in trouble? Right?
Wrong. World is not going to stop spinning either whether so called professionals laugh at your expense. Let elite people have fun if they gain some fun laughing when you do something dumb. It’s not going to make any difference to your career anyway – it’s up to you what you decide to do. It’s not like some “important professional” is going to decide what your destiny will be.
Stop spending time with negative people
If I find that certain people don’t have anything positive to say about me, and all they do is whine, complain and focus on negative stuff – then I simply move on. I think life is too short to spend it whining about that’s it too short. If some people laugh at your ideas, then find people who don’t.