Comments on: Do You Have a Firm Handshake?

By: Dan

Dan — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 20:19:56 +0000

I know someone who is so strong that he has to give a totally weak handshake or else it will leave you wondering why he shook it so hard..for reals

By: Juuso

Juuso — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 06:24:35 +0000

(I had no idea this post would become such a popular one for comments…)

By: Katherine

Katherine — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:46:44 +0000

But I have bad coordination! If at least one of us isn’t looking at the hands as we approach then we will miss and there will only be eye contact and no handshake (I’ll probably end up accidentally shaking hands with their pants or something ew).

By: Oliver

Oliver — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 19:32:27 +0000

@Sargon: May I post that one on passive aggressive notes? :)

@Jörgen: I’ve heard of psycho cybernetics but haven’t read it. I don’t want to read minds or anything.. I just like to understand my own brain. :) It helps a lot in real-life situations… for example, many people don’t know the difference between problem and conflict and people who turn problems into personal conflicts can be hard to deal with.. learning that kind of stuff really helps when you work in a company and have to deal with “politics” and all that crap. :)

By: Jörgen

Jörgen — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 07:39:43 +0000

@Oliver: Your onto something. There is immense information in body language and how people react by thier environment. Look at the leadership and personal developing business and see the vast amount of resources all big leaders invest to learn to read and understand people.

Read http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psycho-Cybernetics; I was so frustrated by discovering that techniques for reading people (as everyone does more or less successful) and managing your own mind (which is hard not difficult) has been out there for ages.

There is no magic, just focus and knowledge.

By: Lumooja

Lumooja — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:20:43 +0000

You should then look in their left eye, because the left eye tells the truth, and the right eye tells what they want you to believe.

By: Junkyard Sam

Junkyard Sam — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 20:43:51 +0000

Hey you should add to this — LOOK A PERSON IN THE EYE when you shake their hands!!! Not looking someone in the eye when you shake their hands is even worse than the weak shake!

good post. To many people fail this.

By: Sargon

Sargon — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 15:09:22 +0000

Oliver, I think you just “see things”.
Some people believe in astrology, they can read astrology and feel like its so right and true. Eventhough, many of the astrology column writers would admit they just made it up out of nothing, and they don’t really rely on astrological “science”.
If a person wants to believe in something hard enough, eventually it will be true, but only for that specific person.

By: Oliver

Oliver — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 07:46:33 +0000

@Sargon: Most people are not psychologist, yet why do we judge people by their handshake? Because it’s not some kind of “priviledge” you gain when you become a psychologist but because it’s a subconscious process. All we can do is overlay it with logic or ignore it.

I know I do judge people by their handshakes and I’m almost never wrong about it… it’s part of the important first impression. I don’t analyze it but I get a gut feeling that I intuitively know what it means. No logic there.

Same goes for social status. When you’re in a group you subconsciously know who’s where in the hierarchy. You don’t even know to talk to figure that out.

Now, I’m not a psychologist but I’m interested in that subject and when you pay close attention to how you react you will know it’s true. Most of us just overlay it with logic and ego.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 00:05:19 +0000

To me, a person with a weak handshake means they never learned to shake hands and they’re not used to shaking hands. I always feel a little bit disgusted when I don’t get a decent handshake out of someone, but then I move on and I forget about it.

A strong or crushing handshake, to me means the person doesn’t take any crap from anybody, that they’re confident. Doesn’t mean they’re smart or right, but that they’re more likely to think they are. I remember when I have my hand crushed.