We all know that there’s “stupid” people who “don’t get it”. They come to us and tell how things need to be done. They act like idiots and don’t respect our comments, ideas or thoughts.
Here’s what I have to deal with:
The orangehead story
Me: “Here’s a list of games we can play then.”
Orangehead: “But I won’t participate unless there’s good games.”
Me: Well, what games you want? Why cannot you show some support? This is a team effort, no time to go solo. Everybody needs to show some team spirit here!”
Me thinking secrectly: (What a goddamn orangehead. This type of situation doesn’t very often and this dude is already ruining the plans even before we get started)
And so on
No matter how much we force our own opinion, they just don’t get it.
Here’s one lil thing that has helped me to see to the other side of the fence. It requires a big drill, but after there’s a hole – I can take a peek and have little more understanding why these orangeheads act like they do.
The drill philosophy states that: “People do the best decisions from their point-of-view”.
If I start thinking this… I can think that perhaps the Orangehead in the story isn’t that orangehead after all. Maybe he really wants to participate, but is concerned that there aren’t good games to play. Maybe he would be fully supporting the plan, but just wants to ensure that there are really good games to play.
If I label him (in my mind – or in a blog post for that matter) as an “orangehead” I’ve sort of like “already made up my mind what I think about this chap”. This calls for confrontation. I defend my view, he defends his view… and it’s a battle. Instead, if I think that this orangehead, I mean fellow chap, is doing the best decisions from his point-of-view I can gain more understanding and perhaps help find some middleground.